Marriage: The Room Mate Marriage

Marriage partners so often drift from being close to being room mates. It is not an intentional or fast journey, it just sort of sneaks up on people.

A useful analogy is what happens when you put a frog into a pot of boiling water. The frog will do the best it can to get out. But if you put a frog into a pot of room temperature water and slowly turn up the heat, by the time the frog tries to get out, it is cooked.

This is much like what happens in the room mate marriage.

Signs of a Room Mate Marriage

The closeness they once felt is gone
The passion they once felt is gone
Their is an unease that goes unspoken most of the time
They each have their separate interests and separate lives

Many room mate couples look like this - the man has had his "affair" with work and career, and the woman has had her "affair" with the kids and the couple becomes virtually strangers to each other.

What to Do

The trip back from room mates to soul mates is intentional and takes conscious attention. The trip is a decision that is made at the beginning of the journey, and then needs to be remade on a daily, sometimes hourly basis.

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