You Don't Have to Pull Out Your Hair: Tips to Reduce Wedding-Stress

You Don't Have to Pull Out Your Hair: Tips to Reduce Wedding-Stress By Tshombé Brown January 2005

Between money, expectations, trying to please everyone, lack of time, and other stressors, what you have looked forward to as the happiest period of your life - planning your dream wedding -- may instead feel like a nightmare. You want the experience to bring you and your fiancée closer together, and it seems you are disagreeing or arguing more than ever before. All is not lost. Expect stress. Simply understanding what is happening to you is in itself curative. Make sure you are addressing the issue at hand and not reading into the situation that your partner does not care. There are many ways you can manage your feelings of overwhelm and actually enjoy the journey that will lead you to begin your lives together as husband and wife. Here are five you can implement right away. 1. You can only please some of the people some of the time. Everyone has advice on what you should and shouldn't include in your wedding. Take what they say with a grain of salt and do what truly reflects what you two want. 2. Wedding Vendors. Contrary to popular belief, most vendors are not vultures. However, they are in business to make money. Before talking to any vendor, decide what your budget is and stick with it. If you feel pressured to purchase something that is not in your budget or is more expensive than what your budget allows, say something like "That's not in my budget, but let me go home, re-look at my budget and see what I can do." With distance from the source of stress, you can think clearly and more objectively see whether you actually need the item or if it's simply an expensive add-on. 3. "It takes two to tango." Because of wedding-related stress and because you are increasingly spending more time together than with others, you may find you are stressing each other out. You also are spending more time on wedding planning together than on working on your relationship together. Schedule one day or evening a week that is a "no-wedding night." Spend the time together however you like. Just remember NOT to mention the W word. 4. Stay Organized and Delegate. Organization is the key to minimizing stress. At the minimum, keep a to-do list with you at all times and use a calendar to track all appointments and deadlines. Keep all wedding-related items in one place. Planning a wedding is a colossal undertaking, so do not try to take it on alone. Delegate as much as you can to others. 5. Hire a Wedding Consultant. Wedding Planners are not just for the wealthy. A wedding planner will not only save you money in real dollars (You can expect to save at least the consultant's fee.), but also buy you time. More time means less stress.

Remember also to exercise, eat well, and get plenty of sleep. Above all else, when you begin to feel overwhelmed, take a deep breath and reflect on how amazing it is that you are about to marry the man or woman of your dreams.

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About the Author Tshombé Brown owns and manages his own wedding consulting business, Your Signature. His company provides a range of services to assist couples to plan their weddings with less stress while also saving them time and money. He can be reached at 360.527.3200 and on the web at www.yoursignaturewedding.com.

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